Many women make bad choices when it comes to dating. They pick the wrong men and when they do pick the right ones they end up driving away! If this describes you, I am going to give you some easy but effective tips that you have never heard before that will transform you into a dating goddess.
Use your femininity to attract and keep a man
If you struggle to get dates or come across quite stiff when on them, then it is time to embrace your femininity. Men love boobs, hips, legs and everything else that you possess. You are not a sexual object but there’s no harm in showing off a little bit of what he could be getting. The two key words here are “little bit”, the rule is to never show boobs and legs at the same time, it is either one or the other. You don’t want him to end up thinking of you as some kind of booty call strategy that is good for one thing only. When you are on a date at a restaurant swing your hips when you walk to the bathroom, pout nonchalantly as you talk to him, stroke your neck casually. All these are sexual signs and he would be a fool not to instantly invite you for a second date.
If he doesn’t seem perfect, just give him a chance
It’s okay to go out of your comfort zone at times and date men whom you would not usually. If it hasn’t worked out with the perfect guy then maybe that isn’t who you are meant to be with. What good is a nice guy with lots of money if he doesn’t make you feel like your heart is going to beat out of your chest? Give a wide variety of guys a chance for a date, it’s only dinner – it isn’t marriage! You could be missing out on your soul mate just because he does not tick all the boxes. Attraction is key when you are looking for a man. If he doesn’t make your belly flip then think how things will get further down the line. Although you do need that initial attraction – don’t expect too much, it is going to be difficult to find a guy who looks like Ryan Gosling! In terms of success, money is not everything and there is a lot to be said for love and laughter. I don’t know about you but I’d prefer to live in an average house with somebody who made me happier than live in a mansion with somebody who made me miserable. First impressions can be deceiving, even if the guy seems like a jerk, have a date so that you can get to know him a little better (obviously meet in a public place!). If the date is a total disaster, make up an excuse and go for a hasty getaway.
A date is not a job interview
Sure you want to get to know your date but don’t make it seem like you’re interviewing him for a job. Keep the conversation casual and lighthearted, especially for the first few dates. You will find things out about him without coming across as needy and wanting to know every detail of his life. Asking question after question on a date can come across as very robotic and inexperienced. What will make him more likely to stick around is for you to relax, be yourself and have fun.
Don’t follow the typical dating rules
So many women play hard to get even when they like a guy and want to take things further. This can be in regards to the ‘wait three days to text’ method or simply not acting interested when speaking to him. Let me tell you that this old fashioned method does not work anymore. If you have enjoyed your date – tell him you had a great time and then go on to play hard to get simply to play the game, he is going to think that you are not interested and look elsewhere. So don’t play games, if you like him rearrange a date whenever the time feels right. You don’t want to come across too clingy but you don’t want to come across as being nasty and rude, it is all about finding the right balance.
Keep the intimacy for, when you know him better
Having sex on the first date is a big ‘no no’ in my opinion. Fair enough, sparks are flying and you are getting on well but wouldn’t you rather build up that chemistry into something deeper before you give him the goods? By putting out on the first date or even on the first three dates, he has nothing else to stick around for because he hasn’t got to know your great personality yet. He will not see you as girlfriend material – he will see you as a booty call strategy. By ‘booty call strategy’, I mean that he will save your number on his phone and give you a call whenever he is feeling horny and in need of some sexual favors. You are worth more than that so hold off until you get to know the guy, can see that he is genuine and the time is right.
Don’t try and be better than him
This can be for later on in a relationship or when you are still in the casual dating stage. Men like to think that they are superior in everything that they do, it is just in their DNA and they don’t do it to be arrogant. You are his girlfriend and not his competition. Don’t make everything a test to see who is best. Look at how well you fit together not who is the most successful/funny/better looking/wealthier. The worst thing that you can do when you are dating a man is to point out his flaws. This will bring him down, will leave him insecure and this is the not the foundation for a happy and fulfilling relationship. If you don’t work together as a team, the relationship is not going to work out because he will soon be running for the hills looking for someone who appreciates him for who he is.
Be happy and project it onto him
Don’t over think every situation with your man, as women we are known for doing this too often. Trying to get into his mind is not a good path to go down. Constantly wondering where the relationship is going will make you snappy and paranoid. Enjoy each minute that you spend with him, if you’re happy about the here and now – that is all that matters. Try and always be positive, he will pick up on this and it will make him much happier and your time together more fulfilling.